Shibari – a passion that binds

The fascination of rope

Shibari is the Japanese-inspired art of rope bondage. Kinbaku is often used synonymously, but refers to a particular depth within this practice, bringing together technique, aesthetics, bodywork, awareness and emotional connection. Shibari is therefore much more than learning bondage techniques.

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At its heart is the conscious connection between two people. The ropes support the body, create pressure and restrict movement, while opening up space for heightened awareness. Touch, tension, rhythm and breathing become elements of nonverbal communication. In this way, rope affects not only the body, but can also touch on and reveal emotional states, relationship patterns and inner dynamics.

Every wrap and change in tension creates a response. A dialogue unfolds—not through words, but through presence, attention and trust.

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As a form of bondage, Shibari belongs in the BDSM context and is erotically charged for many people. At the same time, the practice can go far beyond that: it can be a meditative experience, artistic expression, an aesthetic exploration, a physical challenge or a way to experience closeness and trust in a special way.

In our view, no reason for practising Shibari is inherently more valid or valuable than another. Its many facets are what make Shibari so fascinating to so many people. What matters is mindfulness, consent, responsibility and a willingness to meet yourself and the other person with care and attention.

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For us, the special quality of Kinbaku lies in the connection between outward form and inner experience. It’s not just about tying someone up, but about what happens between two people through that experience. Technique provides the foundation, but it’s the conscious act of engaging with each other that gives it emotional depth. Rope can be deeply challenging and fulfilling at the same time. Shibari invites us to let go of control or consciously take it on, to act responsibly and let trust grow. Emotions can arise, change and pass. For many, this creates a state of heightened presence: focused, grounded and connected. This combination of learning, experience and inner movement is what makes Shibari a practice that continues to unfold with every encounter.

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For us, Shibari becomes its own space for communication and experience. Technique meets sensation, guidance meets surrender, body meets awareness. It’s not about achieving a flawless tie, but about what feels right between the people in that moment.

Franky (Rigger)

Franky’s journey with rope began early. What started as a fascination with the interplay of se*uual function, technique, and structure developed over the years into a considered practice of connection, energy, and responsible communication. His many years of experience in karate and aikido are clearly reflected in his style and approach: karate brings structure, precision, and the conviction that sound fundamentals create safety. Aikido brings an understanding of balance, timing, and respectful energy exchange—not force against force, but awareness, acceptance, and redirection.

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This connection shows in the way he ties. Presence, calm, and a grounded clarity meet a keen feel for "tension". For Franky, Shibari begins not with the first knot, but with the first moment of connection. He works with empathy and awareness of energy, paying close attention to changes in breathing, muscle tension, and mood, and sensitively adjusting his lead in response. To him, rope is not a means of control, but a tool for building trust and connection.

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As an experienced instructor, he also brings extensive experience in teaching complex topics. He understands that people learn in different ways—some through clear structures, others through movement, images, or repetition. He adapts his explanations accordingly and creates an environment where understanding can grow. His priorities are clear: safety comes first, understanding before speed, and quality before effect. Technique is the foundation—but what matters most is the mindset with which it is applied.

Mel (Model / Ukete & Rigger)

Her approach to Shibari is shaped by depth, mindfulness, and a keen eye for what lies beneath the surface. She is interested not only in the outward form of a tie, but in what emerges through the experience—whether as a model in the ropes or as an active rigger. For her, Shibari is a space where control and surrender, strength and vulnerability can coexist.

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When Mel talks about “taking up space” and “holding space,” she means the ability to allow processes to unfold. To create a framework where hidden feelings, unspoken needs, or long-held impulses can come to the surface. Not forced. Not dramatized. Simply welcomed.

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Her work as an Aerial Yoga instructor broadens her understanding of anatomy, the nervous system, and body safety—particularly when working with the strain of suspension. A key focus of her work is helping people understand their individual risk profile. She sees safety as an ongoing process that takes into account physical factors, emotional dynamics, and personal boundaries.

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For Mel, Shibari is a relational practice: between body and nervous system, between two people—and between what is visible and what can only emerge in a safe space.

About us as teachers...

For us, Shibari isn’t a rigid system but a living practice—a process that calls for responsibility, mindfulness and ongoing learning.

Our journey has taken us through numerous workshops, conventions and intensive private tuition. We’ve been particularly influenced by the work of Osada Ryu, as taught by Osada Steve and Yagami Ryu, as taught by Ren Yagami as well as inspiration from Sarca Martello and Akira Naka.

This diversity has shaped our style—open, process-oriented and individual. We believe good teaching isn’t about imparting rigid forms, but about creating a safe framework in which people can develop their own approach.

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We stand for diversity in rope, sexual diversity, different gender identities and body positivity. We believe everyone—regardless of age, body shape, experience or disability—can find their own way into rope. Our consent-based workshops provide a supportive, mindful space for this.

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We teach both roles—active and passive—and build safety in from the start, both physically and emotionally. We teach not only the “how” but also the “why.” Our motto: understand, don’t just imitate.

Alongside technique and safety, we incorporate body movement, breath, dynamics and working with the flow. We support models in developing their own risk profile and understanding load and release mindfully—particularly in suspension. We see different bodies as the starting point for individual solutions. Drawing on our experience on both sides of the rope, we support learning in a practical and nuanced way. This work deepens our focus on mindfulness, the nervous system, communication and sustainable development—aspects we see as inseparable from the fascination of rope.

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We teach in a non-dogmatic, participant-focused way, with room to explore topics in depth—in small groups as well as 1:1. For us, learning can be technically grounded and emotionally moving at the same time.

We’re also available outside of class, for example at our ZENDO rope meetup or in training formats such as Kumite.